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Poisons: Lust, Envy & Jealousy

Posted on 2009-02-06 at 1:18 a.m..

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(Just a note, this entire site is a work in progress and probably always will be. Health is something I am passionate about, and in the future, whenever I discover shocking new facts, they'll be added to this site.)

Throughout our lives we're trying to become happy. It's what we want, is it not? We want to be content with our lives, to be able to sit back and relax. To be able to look back at what we've done throughout our life and say "I've lived fully, and though I've made mistakes I'm stronger, wiser, smarter and so very much happier now!"

After reading "The Art of Happiness," I really truly believe that we do spend our entire life searching for happiness, or for contentment, but many people never find it. The things I talk about on this site, the "poisons" in our life, are not only toxic to the body, but to the mind. These things are poisons because they detract from our happiness.

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." -Mahatma Gandhi

Think about your life. What is that makes you unhappy? Does your back hurt, or your head, or your legs? Are you unhappy with your weight? Are you unhappy with your reputation or your circle of friends? Do you dislike your job or your family? Do you dislike your day to day life?

Did thinking about the things in your life that you dislike upset you just now? Consider this: do you feel better or worse than you did before you started thinking about it? If you feel worse, then the chances are very high that you're suffering from at least one of the "poisons" talked about on this site. If you noticed however that you felt better after reading that paragraph, you probably realized, "wow, I really don't have much to be upset about," and that's great! Spread the love and the joy!

"Happiness? That's nothing more than good health and a poor memory."
-Albert Schweitzer

Lust

There is nothing wrong with sex itself; sex it self is healthy. However, unfulfillable lust can destroy your life. I know this not only via friends and books but from personal experience. So, this is not an anti-sex blurb, this is about the detrimental effects of lust.

I have always considered the repulsion and the negativity surrounding sex to be ridiculous and biased, and contradictory. Almost all of us want sex, and almost all of us deserve sex.

That being said, lust can cause a lot of serious problems in your life. Thinking about sex too much, or trying too hard to get it, or even masturbating too often can detract from the richness and the happiness in your life.

To determine whether or not you have a "lust problem" consider this:

  • Do you think about sex while you're at work?
  • Does thinking about sex at work interfere with your job?
  • If you're a parent, do you sometimes neglect to do something you should have for your child because you were either masturbating, distracted by sex, or having sex?
  • Do you watch porn more than once a day?
  • Do you spend more than $40 on sex-related items (condoms, toys, porn, lube) in a month?
  • Have you ever had sex with more than two different people in one day?
  • Have you slept with more than twenty five different people in your life? Or have you lost count somewhere around fifteen or twenty and don't care anymore?
  • Do you go out more than once a month just to meet a random person to have sex with?

    If you answered yes to one of those questions, you may have a problem. If you answered yes to two or more of those questions, you at least have a mild problem.

    You might think; "What's the big? So I like sex, so I think about it? What's the problem? I use condoms. It's good exercise!" And you'd be right. As long as you're using condoms, it is safe, and it is healthy. What's unhealthy is the mind-set, and this is truly coming from someone who has been there, and who has gotten to know others with the same issues.

    An extreme desire for sex (or sexually related activities) is not just a bunch of extra hormones in your blood. That could (considering the hormones in today's milk and meat) be a factor, but nine times out of ten, the largest factor is your mind-set.

    Here are some possible causes for an accelerated sex drive:

  • The parent of the opposite sex was missing or distant while you were growing up.
  • You had no close friends as a child.
  • You were sexually abused in any way under the age of sixteen. (The younger it happened, the worse the mental affects, generally.)
  • You has sex for the first time under the age of eleven.
  • You were exposed to porn and/or sex toys under the age of eight.

    If you answered yes to one or more of these, it could be the underlying cause of your lusty thoughts. But you still likely don't think it's a problem, right?

    Well, aside from cutting into your time (after all, sex is enjoyable, so it's not a waste of time, right?), and aside from distracting you from things that are important (your job, your children, maybe even your spouse, your friends), there is a negative psychological problem. It may be that you can't feel loved, appreciated or accepted without sex. This incredibly common.

    The best solution? I don't have any idea at the moment. I'll come back to this page when I do!

    (Unfinished)

    "The Constitution only guarantees the American people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself."
    ~Benjamin Franklin


    Envy & Jealousy

    We're always going to want things. Unless you become a Buddhist monk and train your mind for the next ten years, you'll continue to want things for the rest of your life.

    Wanting more for yourself is natural and normal. Comparing yourself to others is also normal and unavoidable.

    However, consider this; If you got a raise of $10,000 a year, and now you make more than your father does in a year, you'd feel great, wouldn't you? You'd probably get a momentary boost to your level of happiness every time you thought about it for weeks, probably even months. But next year, it's going to be old news.

    In most cases, when you acquire something that someone else has that you wanted for yourself, the joy doesn't even last for a week. You were just fulfilling a temporary urge; and often these urges are best unfulfilled.

    (Unfinished)

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